First Impressions June 27, 2009
Posted by jessieloi in introspection.trackback
First impressions.
Everytime we meet someone new, for that few seconds, we develop our own impression, our own personal opinion of that person. In that few seconds, we judge.
People always have wrong first impressions of me. So I told myself to never ever judge other people especially people who I just met.
I tell people that I don’t usually have ‘first impressions’ of other people. That is, however, a lie. Everyone always have those ‘first impressions’. It’s human nature. I’ve learned though, to not take all these ‘first impressions’ seriously. I always get first impressions wrong, so shrug off my judgement until I get to know that person.
I get annoyed sometimes, with people who truly believes in their first impression of another. I’ve met people who get a shock of their lives when they find out I am not like how they thought I was.
Maybe it’s not their fault. Maybe the way I bring myself always sends out the wrong message. Maybe, without realising it, I do act all pompous and what not. Maybe I should do a little review of myself.
Then again, why should I? Nah, I’ve learned to not care. I know who and how I am. My friends know that too.
I have again and again proven to other people that I am not a spoilt brat or a ‘naughty’ girl (what is their definition of ‘naughty’ I do not know) or a player (by player I mean toying with other guys). So, I’ve learned to not take people’s opinions of me (especially those who just know me) too seriously.
It works both ways. When people tell me what they think of me the first time they met me, I don’t take it too seriously. At the same time, whatever first impression I have on someone else, I never hold on to it. My first impressions are always wrong. Every single time.
Today, I have been proven wrong again. I have never felt happier to be wrong =)
LOL!!! I never think that u r playgirl!!! Anyway, I also don’t think that u have these kind of potential
woo.. back from MIA…. hmm.. first impressions, maybe those commenting did not really converse with you. like all books, dont judge the book by its covers.
Nicholas,
hahaha i wasn’t talking about you la.
crash,
yeah exactly, which is my point. some ppl just have those impressions and prefer not to talk to me.
but anyway, i am learning not to bother so much cause i think ppl like that are not ppl i want as friends.
Hahaha! Play girl.
Hahaha!!!! But i love hearing about the first impressions wor. Damn nice one.
u must have P n G. like esther.
what’s p n g?
xinmin,
yeahla! imagine that.
dwee,
hahha i do love hearing them. but i seriously wonder what i did that causes ppl to have such impressions of me.
hL,
hahahha!!
crash,
Poise and Grace.
Have you ever met people who do not talk to you before and have been observing you for months and suddenly poop out to you and tell you about their first impression about you?
I guess I had. Was the most scariest moment. every single shot of the word is so true.
So i guess what plays around the first impression is our self intro part. Because people judge by what they see we are right but not what we say we are. actions la in a way.
But somehow in the situation like i mentioned, this person could just observe me without a string of words from my side to his ear. and his first impression could somehow define me.
so its actually the absence or presence of the 2 way conversations that play the role i guess.
p/s owh man jess playgirl? =P cool! but yea your first impression for me is that…I guess it begins with the identity of aiesec that it totally set my impression.
gene-harn,
wah observing you for months? that sounds a little, creepy hahaha.
you thought I was a playgirl?! what’s it gotta do with aiesec? hahahah!
Gene harn, that is terrible!!!
Personally..
Until now, nobody know my truly inner side except i am willing to share with them.
I always like to ask people about what is their first impression on me coz sometimes i wish that person really can answer it. Maybe i want to find a person that can really understand me. :p
Sometimes, quite disappointed with their answer.
Maybe that is my expectation setting on people who I meet in my life
(always asking my first impression :p)
woo… jessie has a stalker.. hehe